They Dyer Family and Groden: Celebrating Progress, Growth, and Generosity
October 22, 2021
In 1976, Charlie and Jane Dyer were at their wit’s end. They felt
angry, frustrated, and betrayed that their son Kevin’s public school was
not giving him the support he needed to succeed. “Ultimately,” says
Charlie, “Jane and I pulled Kevin out of school.”
The Dyers decided that a local hospital for children with
developmental disabilities would be the best next step. Kevin spent six
months visiting the hospital while the family attempted to get him a
diagnosis. As Charlie tells it, “In the 70s and 80s, some psychologists
believed that autistic behaviors in children were the result of a
troubled home life.” This has long since been debunked, but at the time,
both Charlie and Jane were required to attend group meetings to
determine if they were contributing to Kevin’s problems.They were doing all the right things,
but Kevin still wasn’t getting the care he needed. “The hospital never
even shared a useful diagnosis with us,” Charlie told us.
Finally, after a difficult meeting with school administrators,
Charlie, Jane, and Kevin visited with Drs. June and Gerry Groden at
their new offices on Mount Hope Ave. Kevin reacted well to the positive,
calming approach that the Drs. Groden used in their therapeutic care.
Once Kevin was finally enrolled at the Groden Center they felt relieved.
The family had finally found the right place for Kevin!
As Kevin made progress, the Dyers wanted to support autistic and
developmentally disabled individuals like their son. Charlie realized
that other parents wanted to meet and support each other, so he helped
establish the Groden Parents & Friends Association (PFA). He also
became President of the RI Autism Society and served on the Special
Education Board in his local school district. In his words, “My goal was
to increase awareness and educate people about autism.” As Charlie
became more involved, he saw a gap in the care provided to these
families.
Now, Kevin happily lives in a semi-independent residence with nine
other adults like him on the East Side of Providence. This home is
privately funded by the parents as a condo association.
After retirement, Charlie began consulting with the Drs. Groden to
create another residence similar to Kevin’s. Eight developmentally
disabled people moved into the new home after Charlie’s efforts won a
grant and public funding assistance from the City of East Providence.
Charlie and Jane have been continual supporters of the Groden
Network. Jane’s loss will be felt deeply throughout our community. You
can read her obituary here.
Your generosity makes a lasting difference. With your support, we can expand our reach, enhance our programs, and create even more opportunities for individuals with autism and developmental disabilities to lead happy, productive, and fulfilled lives.